Solution: Resist your urge to be overbearing and controlling, or judgy. Pick and choose your battle and let loose once in a while. Laugh at yourself once in a while. Complaining about everything is a little bit like being uptight.
No one wants to be around someone who complains about everything. All I wanted to do was get the hell out of there. Solution : Chronic complainers feel as if the world has given them the short end of the straw.
If someone tells you that you complain and criticize too much, you may disagree with that person. Listen, take a step back and examine your motives for complaining. There is usually another underlying reason or desire underneath all the criticizing and complaining. By putting yourself out there, you have the added benefit of having more experiences outside of work, which means you might have more to talk about. Sign: Not everyone has the time, money or inclination to get out there and suck the marrow out of life.
When my boys were young, money was tight, and I barely had enough time to do the bare essentials; work, take care of my children, cook and clean. To say that it was hard for me to get out there, try new things and have a life is an understatement. Looking back, I should have tried harder or made more time to do things outside of my routine. I always had an excuse.
Solution: Make time, even if only once in a blue moon, to do something out of the ordinary — anything, big or small. You look upset or angry! I had this permanent furrowed look on my face as if I was concentrating on solving some impossible problem. In reality, it was probably my anxiety showing through, and then it just became my face in its natural state. I had to work really hard on my facial expressions. Sign: I picture scowling faces and furrowed eyebrows when I think of a dull and grumpy person.
Which one are you? All Smiles or all frowny? Solution: When I think about fun or happy people in my life, I picture them smiling, laughing and just being jovial. The simple act of smiling can not only lift the spirits of another person but also your own. Smiling is also contagious. The next time you make eye contact with someone, smile at them and see what happens. Try it; it works. Mix things up a bit.
Start right now. Stop planning everything. I used to be so hung up on climbing the corporate ladder. It consumed me and my life. For you. World globe An icon of the world globe, indicating different international options. Get the Insider App. Click here to learn more. A leading-edge research firm focused on digital transformation. Good Subscriber Account active since Shortcuts.
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Common qualities of extremely boring individuals include poor improv and storytelling skills. Boring people also tend to lack original opinions. Visit Business Insider's homepage for more stories. Boring people have unbalanced conversations. Boring people can't tell if others are engaged in the conversation. Boring people can't make others laugh. Boring people never have anything to say in conversations.
Boring people always do the same thing. Boring people don't have their own opinions. Boring people don't know how to tell a good story. Boring people don't have anything new to add. Boring people can't see things from other people's perspectives. Boring people don't include anybody in the conversation. Boring people have poor improv skills. Boring people are constantly negative. Alexa Knowles lays it down : "Where the loud bore believes they are the most interesting person there is, the quiet bore believes it's best to never say anything because who would want to listen to them?
These are the ones that reply to every inquiry with some variant of 'I dunno, sort of, I guess. If you haven't thought critically about what it is you think, you're not going to have much to offer in conversation.
You also have to solicit stories out of others. And you have to care about those stories. Research into our brains reveals that we're basically hard-wired to seek novelty.
It's a need that's been rattling around evolution for some , years. The conversational takeaway: If you don't provide anything new to the listener, they're not going to be stimulated. What makes someone boring is "the inability to include the others with interest into the conversation," says Marie Holland , "which I feel usually happens when the 'boring' person just wants their point to be told with too much detail that isn't relevant. This goes along with the empathy thing: If you can't figure out that someone in the circle of conversation is feeling left out, you're boring.
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